“At our wedding, we had made vows to each other, but before I met him, at his medical school graduation, he had made vows to his future patients. Our marriage was private, but his profession was not.”
“Is There a Doctor in the Marriage?” by Anya Groner, New York Times
While all of you are physicians, only a few of you know what it is like to be married to a physician. It is not hard to imagine the challenges. As Groner writes, “As his responsibilities grew, so did my frustration. I wanted to support him as he pursued his dream career, but I couldn’t help feeling that his work and I were in competition.”
That said, divorce rates for physicians are not as high as you might think. In a study published by the British Medical Journal, divorce rates for doctors were less than dentists, nurses, lawyers, and health care executives. Within health care, only pharmacists had a lower rate. Being a physician adds some challenges to a marriage, but it is far from a relationship killer.
Any important relationship needs tending. As you think about goals and intentions for this year, you might want to add this question to the mix: What is one thing you could do to strengthen your marriage or significant relationship?